Do you doubt yourself over having feelings for your ex? You’re not the only one, I’ve been there.
Here are 8 signs you are not over your ex.
8. You Feel Excellent When You See Him
If you aren’t sure if you’re correctly over him, think about how it feels when he’s in front of you or thinks of a scenario where you suddenly see him. Do you feel happy inside? Does your heart start pounding? Do you want nothing more but his attention when he’s near you? If you think any of these even remotely, then you’re not over him, and you need to keep your distance as much as you can until you can overcome these feelings definitively.
7. You Still Almost Text Him
We all go through that helpless phase after a breakup, where we almost text our ex. We write up a long and heartfelt (sometimes anger-filled) message, and we think about sending it but end up deleting the entire message altogether. This is a weakness that goes away as time goes on. But don’t expect it to happen overnight. Moving on is one of the hardest things in the world, and even when you think you’re there, you’re not.
6. You Compare Other Men To Him
Ladies, I know going through a break up is a horrible situation, and I wouldn’t wish that state of mind even upon my enemies, but you can’t compare other men to him. It’s prevalent when a girl isn’t over her ex, she gets approached by a lot of good guys who are probably better than her ex, but she always finds a way to compare him to her ex and get sad on how that new guy isn’t like her ex. Understand that he is an ex for a reason, and you’re getting a lot of good guys to go because of those feelings you can’t let go of.
5. You Live In His Memories
The memories you share with your partner are unforgettable, and they have a lot of triggers that instantly remind you of that one sweet event you two shared but try to slowly forget those moments because they are causing you nothing but trauma and heartache. Try to concentrate on the bad memories and try to wrap the good memories around the bad ones.
4. You Constantly Talk About Him
It’s understandable to talk about him a few weeks after the breakup, but if you keep going at it even after months, it needs to stop. Even the closest friends you have will grow tired of your constant ramblings about How romantic and impressive your ex used to be. They will slowly start being distant from you, and you’ll eventually find yourself without any support when you most need it. So the best thing to do here is to keep it to yourself even if you badly want to talk about him, and slowly develop the habit of never discussing the past and hence help yourself move on. This is from personal experience, the more you talk about it, the more you cling to it.
3. The Pictures
If you still have pictures with him, you need to delete them permanently. Your friends will start thinking of you as a person who can’t stop clinging, and you’ll also seem creepy. Plus, it won’t help you move on. Whenever you look at his pictures, you’ll only get sad. Every photo represents a romantic and cherished moment, and it triggers those memories. These things will only make you cry and will turn you into a weaker person in the long-run.
2. You Want To Be Seen By Him
You go to a particular party because you know he’ll be there. Even if you have another guy with you to make him jealous, you’ll be the sad one in the end when you see him happy. Be busy in your own life, don’t ask his friends about him, and don’t try to be where he is. If you run into him by chance, act natural, and greet him if you want to but don’t seem too clingy while doing it. Be a happy and healthy person and let go.
1. You Stalk His Facebook
If you find yourself looking at his profile now and then, you’re not even close to being over him. By looking at his profile, you’re only trapping yourself. You’ll see his social life, and his comments, and it will make you sad, everything you see will make you miserable, and you’ll make a habit of watching his profile every single day. So, avoid temptation and stop stalking him, it’s the only way you’re going to be happy in the future.
The more you understand yourself, the more silence there is, the healthier you are.